Rocks, Pebbles, Sand – What is Important for You?
Recently my husband and I have been reevaluating our life, our friends or so-called friends and things that just don’t fit in our jar anymore. Have you heard the story?
There was a philosophy professor who was giving a lecture. In front of him he had a big glass jar. He started off by filling up the jar with the big rocks and when they reached the rim of the jar he held it up to the students and asked them if the jar was full. They all agreed, there was no more room to put the rocks in, it was full.
Is it full?
He then picked up a tub of small pebbles and poured these in jar so that they filled the space around the big rocks. “Is the jar full now?” he asked. The group of students all looked at each other and agreed that the jar was now completely full.
Is it really full?
The professor then picked up another container, this time it had sand in it. He poured the sand in between the pebbles and the rocks and once again he held up the jar to his class and asked if it was full. Once again the students agreed that the jar was full.
“Are you sure it’s full?” he asked. He finally picked up a bottle of water and tipped the water into the jar until it filled up all the remaining space. The students laughed.
Filling up your Life
The jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things that have real value – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, house, car, clothes and so forth.
The sand is everything else – the small stuff.
Make room for the important things
If you fill the jar up first with the sand, you won’t have space for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Put your priorities in their place. Know for a certain what your Rocks are, what your Pebbles are and then once those items are safely placed in the jar, you can fill up with the Sand and either make it all fit, or make those priorities fit first, and everything else after.
Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.